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What’s the Payoff?

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I’ve always had this theory about why the government passed a law against age discrimination.  I don’t think age is the root problem when an older employee gets let go, downsized, canned, forced out, or whatever the politically correct description is these days.  My theory is that it’s the attitude so many people develop as the end of their career looms and there’s not much that motivates them anymore to work their butts off for the company’s benefit.  As soon as that becomes apparent to the employer, it’s to their advantage to trade that employee and their attitude in for someone who still has something to gain by being a slave to “the man” (or the corporation).

I had a phone conversation with a good friend of mine the other day, who also happens to be at the top of the org chart in a family business that owns a manufacturing company, a chain of retail gift and souvenir stores, and a brick & mortar home décor store with on-line and mobile sales channels.  As Chairman of the Board Tim, age 67, has been trying for several years to lead the organization’s Board in creating a viable succession plan for the conglomeration.  He expressed to me, again, his frustration about how difficult that endeavor has been.  I’ve been hearing this from him for at least 5 years.

Tim is the youngest person on the Board of Directors.  He married into the second generation of the family, and that second generation have all retired.  Some of them are on the Board of Directors. None of them, except for Tim, is under the age of 73.  Not one member of the third generation of the family is interested in, or qualified to take over, the whole family business. 

As a former certified facilitator for Stephen Covey’s 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, as well as a human resource development manager, I learned long ago to look far below the surface of a situation.  I know people do things that seem perfectly reasonable to them, even if they seem completely incomprehensible or irrational to us.  So, before I form an opinion or draw a conclusion about something, I try to discern what might be motivating (or not motivating) behavior I don’t understand.

As Tim and I were discussing the succession situation, I wondered what causes a group of (apparently) intelligent men to be so complacent, uninterested to the point of inertia (and negligence?), in a company’s existential problem.  They’ve talked  it to death over and over and over for years but make no decisions to move a solution forward. Tim’s dilemma reminds me of managing an organization of all volunteer help…all the responsibility with little authority or power to make volunteers do anything. It’s a difficult, often thankless task.  To oversee these folks successfully, it’s imperative to find the key that unlocks the motivation of each individual. 

In pondering the situation, I mentioned to Tim that it seems to me there is no payoff anymore for any of those Board members. All of the Board members are finished with their working lives.  Their life’s priorities have changed.  None of them have family to leave the business to.  One member was CEO of the manufacturing company for his entire working life and is probably sick and tired of the grind of it and the problems it faces in changing market conditions.  None of them seem willing to spend money to make money.  They’re comfortable in meeting periodically to rehash old problems hoping (I imagine) the problems will magically disappear.  There are no family members to take their positions on the Board so it’s an obligation that can’t seem to shake.   

For much of their existence, the businesses were profitable without much effort in the past.  They probably have the mistaken impression that if nothing changes, nothing changes. But the changes are all occurring from outside of the business. Now, the manufactured products are mostly relics of the past.  The retail division is keeping manufacturing afloat, but the retail division, ably managed by aging non-family members faces the same succession issues as all of the family’s enterprises. As Margaret Thatcher famously said, “…sooner or later you run out of other people’s money.” Until that happens, there’s simply no compelling payoff for them to change a declining business that won’t go away. 

There are none so blind as those who will not see.

From the outside looking in, the family business is past the do or die stage, has been for several years.  If I were on that Board, I’d vote to get out (of the businesses) while the getting’s good, reap whatever profits are still available, and quit agonizing over what to do with a family business no one cares about anymore.  I know Tim bears a heavy burden that weighs more each year that passes. I wonder if he could suggest that each Board member honestly evaluate whether it’s in the family organization’s best interest for him to remain on the Board.  That might shake things up just enough to provoke some action.  Something’s got to give.

I’ve written often in this blog about finding purpose in retirement.  It’s such as exciting time to be able to choose what we get to do with our time and our energy.  And it allows us the chance to give deeper thought than when we were younger to the question of “what’s the payoff?”.

What constitutes a payoff changes so much for each of us from our working years to our retirement years.  If we’ve had a modicum of success, money takes a back seat.  Other payoff considerations include mindless entertainment, feeling a sense of satisfaction, leaving a legacy, being recognized in some way, fulfilling life-long dreams and desires, being of service to others, or simply having a daily life of no obligations or agenda. 

I was recently asked if I would consider assuming responsibility for maintaining the financial records of a newly formed non-profit organization.  I was flattered, especially since the man who asked had no idea of my bookkeeping and accounting background. Flattery is a powerful payoff (motivating force).  As a life-long people pleaser with a servant’s heart, I was sorely tempted.  But as I considered why I was tempted (I’m happily retired!), I came to understand that the feeling of being flattered wasn’t enough of a payoff for the obligations I’d assume, the loss of freedom I’d experience, and the frustration I might feel with the nice man who would head up the non-profit.  I know myself well.  This nice man is from a generation that, with fairly different values, I’d found exasperating to work with in past situations.  I am not, at this stage in my life, willing to voluntarily take on that frustration.  There is simply no payoff compelling enough for me to say yes to the opportunity. 

Whether or not you’re retired, do you consciously think about payoff when making a decision? Let’s hear your thoughts on what does, or doesn’t, motivate you at this stage of your life. Comment below!

P.S. As always, thanks for reading!   You’re the reason I keep writing!

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10 responses to “What’s the Payoff?”

  1. Carolyn Naples Avatar
    Carolyn Naples

    For me the payoff has to be social. Getting involved with our HOA social committee was a fluke that has paid off with some pretty wonderful fun ladies and sometimes their husbands. The added bonus of bring our community together and making some people who attend the monthly events we plan happy, makes all the time and energy invested worth it. I turned down other requests to get involved down, because frankly, it was too much responsibility, time, and work I’d have to invest.

    1. Laurie Grathen Avatar

      LOL….I guess that shows how different we are even though I absolutely love spending time with you. I never consider social a payoff. I like to be with people, but I don’t actively go looking for social interactions.

  2. Sandy Fager Avatar
    Sandy Fager

    Laurie,
    You’re very good at this! I am enjoying following your writings, even if I don’t have answers I always find myself pondering the question! We had a business that ended up closing for lack of a motivated successor, so I sympathize with your friend’s problem. But as always, everything turned out for the best as I wasn’t left with this to deal with after my husband died.
    What will motivate me as I go forward? I’m not sure; but the question you pose-what payoff am I seeking, has certainly given me food for thought.
    Until we meet again,
    Sandy

    1. Laurie Grathen Avatar

      Sandy, it honors and humbles me that you’re reading my blog. Thanks so much for that.

      Yes, life often throws curves when we least expect them. If often a difficult and painful situation, as I’m sure is true with Al’s passing so quickly. And I find that it’s almost always true that there are opportunities in change, where we choose the change or are forced into it. We can’t change what changed, but we can look for silver linings and opportunities. Going forward is always the better way. As I said in a post a few months ago, Churchill was right when he said, When you’re going through hell, keep going.

      I’m looking forward to our next meeting in November, but I’m also open to another one sooner, even if Jill isn’t able to join us. Just give me a call!

      Blessings!

  3. Cindy Avatar
    Cindy

    Excellent points. I definitely find myself motivated differently than in that past life. Interesting also is what I see in my younger relatives and what motivate them. The idea of evaluating the payoff might need to be shared. As we’ve discussed before that natural intuition is how many of my decisions were made in the past, so I think payoff was just part of that mix and not a separate element. Maybe it should have been?

    1. Laurie Grathen Avatar

      LOL…sometimes pointing it out works. Sometimes it doesn’t. I think it’s true that payoff was always a factor, but in retirement, it’s far more important than money which is generally thought of as the most effective payoff. It changes, as does everything in life.

  4. Brad Avatar
    Brad

    I agree with Randy…you nailed it! I loved your perspective.

  5. Brad Avatar
    Brad

    Once again…great read! I really enjoy your perspective!

    1. Laurie Grathen Avatar

      Thanks, Brad. I know you know the situation well. (BTW….my BP is down 15-20 points today!)

  6. Randy Grathen Avatar
    Randy Grathen

    WOW!!! You nailed it with this one Laurie. 10 out of 10. It’s hard enough to keep a company viable in today’s market. Taxed and regulated to death by government, with a workforce of people mostly looking only to collect a paycheck. (I do know there are many employees there who are doing their best to help the company prosper and grow.)
    As for the Board, “we’ve always done it that way” will be the epitaph on the Gravestone of the company. “Here Lies The Body Of A Once Prosperous Company, Withered And Starved To Death By Apathy.” I feel sorry for Tim.

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