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Guilty. By Innuendo. On Facebook.

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I stumbled on a Facebook post a few days ago that stated that a man I know had allegedly embezzled $100,000 from a business he managed.  This is a small town and the comments on the post were mostly ugly, having jumped to the conclusion that he was, in fact, guilty, and suggesting his punishments.  It was a disgusting display of humanity in the age of social media. 

Posting accusations, innuendos, and gossip about individuals involved in legal disputes, employment, and business situations is bullsh*t. And it’s my experience that only those who are less than honest and twist situations and facts in their favor are prone to do that. Honest people with integrity don’t air their dirty laundry on social media. The fallout from doing that is horrific for everyone involved.

I’m old enough to have been brought up believing in truth, justice, and the American Way.  That phrase originated in the early 1940s for a Superman radio serial as a way to cheer on American military efforts in World War II and became iconic.  It meant that in America we have a right to those things. I grew up believing Americans care deeply about truth and justice, and that we fought to protect those values.  Truth, Justice and the American Way was Superman’s credo all those years. I still believe that, by the way, though you wouldn’t know it from the way our American society has been the last 20 years.

In America there is a legal principle that a person is innocent until proven guilty.  That means that the those who accuse and prosecute have the burden to prove, beyond a reasonable doubt, that a defendant is guilty of that which he or she is accused.  In America, according to established law, a defendant does not need to prove his innocence.  The law holds that the proof must be based on evidence and facts, not assumptions or prejudices.  It also enables the defense to challenge evidence, present alternative explanations, and remind people not to judge too early. 

Sadly, most people are now, unofficially, tried and convicted in minutes in the cesspool that is social media.  All social media requires is for an accusation to even be implied.  Within hours, a few people jump on the bandwagon, assume guilt, and begin acting and speaking accordingly.  It spreads like wildfire. It’s ugly. And it does not bode well for the future of America.

There’s an all too common practice in America called lawfare gaining mainstream popularity.  Lawfare is the strategic use of legal systems and institutions to hinder or damage an opponent.  It used to be an alternative weapon of warfare, but now it is commonly used on individuals to force them to expend resources (time, money, reputation) to defend against trumped (coincidence??) up charges. 

But it’s even worse than that.

There seems to be no accountability or penalty for making wild accusations on social or mainstream media anymore.  People don’t stop and say, “Wait…. innocent until proven guilty!!”  They don’t stop and think about whether the accusation is reasonable or if the facts line up. They simply believe the accusation is true. The idiots comment accordingly.  They call them names, suggest cruel and unusual punishment, and behave in ways that may be even more criminal than what they believe of the accused.  And the more it’s repeated, true or not, the more it gains traction. Like a child having an unwarranted temper tantrum, it’s ugly and disruptive and hard to deal with in an effective way.

I’ve heard it said that in America, anyone can sue anyone for anything.  That is substantially true.  It forces many perfectly innocent people to have to formally answer accusations.  That’s what lawfare has become. Doing that in a court of law is not inexpensive from both a time and money perspective.  In addition, the stress this process creates takes a huge toll on the accused and those who care about him or her.  Why isn’t some lawmaker introducing legislation making it a crime to falsely accuse someone with the intention of engaging in lawfare, with severe penalties for doing so?  How else can we stop this insidious practice that has become all too common in America?

It’s too much to ask that we stop trying and convicting people, or misusing social media in other ways.  The genie is out of the bottle.  Social media is here to stay, and it brings out the worst in people.  Florida passed a law in March 2024 to prohibit social media platforms from creating accounts for anyone younger than 14 and requiring parental permission for those 14 and 15 years old.  That law takes effect on January 1, 2025.  Like that will work. I love Florida, but how the hell are they going to enforce this?  And even if it did, that doesn’t solve the adult (??) problem.  Most adults are worse than the youngsters.  They’ve had a lot more years to hone their hate and stupidity.

Misinformation is the newest buzzword in media and the government.  Misinformation is a key point in this discussion, but misinformation isn’t as cut and dried as some would like to believe.  Lawmakers advocate appointing (or electing) people to sort out misinformation, or passing laws designed to prevent the spread of misinformation.  The problem, in my opinion, is that misinformation is in the eye of the beholder (to mix metaphors), or those screaming misinformation because they want you to believe something else.  The only way to solve this problem is to allow open and free flow of information.  Let people decide for themselves based on ALL the information. Social media has the capacity to do this if it’s not censored or shut down because someone, somewhere, deems something hate speech, partly or totally untrue, misleading, or counter the narrative they support. 

John Adams (Founding Father, signer of the Declaration of Independence, and second President) held that morality and virtue are the foundation of a free society.   He said “Our constitution was made only for a moral and religious people. It is wholly inadequate to the government of any other.” In other words, our government was designed to honor and guarantee truth and justice.  That is the American Way.  But morality cannot be legislated. 

The only solution I see is to restore the morality of our population.  Allow God back in government for those who want to credit him for their own values. Teach people to question everything.  Teach the principles of discernment.  Encourage free discussion of all sides of an issue.  Educate the population on how media and government, institutions, and individuals use narrative to shape what culture thinks so they can learn to think counter-culturally and form their own opinions.  Encourage thinking again. And create serious penalties for lying and spreading information that a person does not know is absolutely factual when he or she passes it on.

For years I’ve been praying almost daily for truth to be revealed and justice to be done.  I’ve seen little progress, but I’m not going to stop.  I hope you’ll join me in that prayer. 

P.S.  Even the DC Comics people have recognized that the American Way no longer resembles truth and justice.  In 2021, they retooled the iconic slogan to read, Truth, Justice, and A Better Tomorrow.  Wimps.  On October 11 of that year, DC Comics also announced that Superman’s son, Jon Kent, who also wears the S shield as a superhero, would come out as a bisexual.  He followed Robin (Superman’s sidekick) who DC Comics revealed as bisexual in August.  As if we actually wonder (or care) who comic book characters sleep with. Oh, the times we live in. 

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10 responses to “Guilty. By Innuendo. On Facebook.”

  1. Cindy Knapp Avatar
    Cindy Knapp

    So, so, so, true. Gossip/slander/mistruths and lawfare are evil, pure and simple. Another perspective is thatI am sure there are many occasions in my life that I have gossiped, with no ill intent. However, the “telephone” game proves that what I “repeat” may not be what I heard/what was said, or that what the people in front of the line heard it correctly. Somewhere along the line, it seems the intent sharing “news” can easily turn into malicious gossip. Know your sources and be careful of what is shared. I have renewed my efforts to not participate in either the listening or sharing of gossip. Call me on it if you see it happening!

    1. Laurie Grathen Avatar

      Good point! Regardless of the intent it can turn so ugly. And create situations that were in no way intended. Better to just refrain from repeating anything.

  2. Michele Rose Avatar
    Michele Rose

    Many years ago I was one of the twelve jurors for a trial. The court case was about a man who allegedly sexually assaulted his granddaughter. The trial lasted three days. But in the end the truth came out, like truths usually do. The daughter was mad at her father (for reasons unknown) so she accused her father for this horrible crime. She raked his name and reputation through the mud. It turned out that the little girl had indeed been sexually assaulted, but by another man. It was a sad, sad situation. I’m not sure how the man who was falsely accused was able to clear his name 100%. I pray the little girl got psychological help…and the girl’s mother, too.

    1. Laurie Grathen Avatar

      That is sad. And a fairly common story. I have a niece that used to call the cops on her parents all the time every time they did something she didn’t like. She learned to do that in school. The parents were constantly having to deal with the authorities for no real crime. Today, at nearly age 40, she’s a bonafide mess. It is sad.

  3. Randy Grathen Avatar
    Randy Grathen

    “Our constitution was made only for a moral and religious people.” Thank you Laurie. You took the words right out of my comment. If you hadn’t written it I was going to.
    When God, and His commandments got kicked out of every institution in our daily life, replaced by “it’s all about me,” this is the result. Self-centeredness and narcissism has become the default position of people’s daily worldview. In fact I just posted a glaring example of this very thing. Listen to this… https://www.facebook.com/DCStatesman/videos/551925681669643

  4. Carolyn Naples Avatar
    Carolyn Naples

    Out to dinner last night someone in our group showed us that post. I don’t remember if it said allegedly or not, but I don’t believe it did. I think we all assume that they had proven he had done this, but as I didn’t read the whole thing I can’t say. I try very hard not to jump to conclusions when I see someone accused on social or other media. I know many times I have said, I’ll wait for all the facts to come out and then I look and research. Even then you never know for certain. I know I haven’t been doing that much lately, the research that is. I hope that I haven’t unjustly assumed someone was guilty in my laziness. Thank you for the article. I will be more aware on social media not to jump to a guilty verdict on posts like that even if it’s just in my head.
    Someone very close to me was accused of molesting a young girl. My self and 2 other people were with that person out to dinner at the time the incident occurred. A woman from church was our waitress. When I talked to her about making a statement, if it went that far, she said no she wouldn’t. Said she didn’t remember. I could see in her eyes she has her doubts. Thank goodness the girl said the photo they showed her was not him. It wa someone with a vendetta against the accused. They even said he was in a bar bragging. You just never know.

    1. Laurie Grathen Avatar

      It did say allegedly. They think that if they put that it removes all their liability. I think they’ll find they’re wrong. There’s a lot more to the story. The truth is somewhere in the middle, as it is with all situations like this. It’s sad. These are very nice, honest people who care about friends, neighbors, and strangers.

  5. Craig Mommaerts Avatar
    Craig Mommaerts

    Agreed. The real superheros are those like who do not waver under the pressure of the woke / liberal/ socialist/ satanist ideology and continue to treat others as children of God first.
    Ty for sharing.

    1. Laurie Grathen Avatar

      That is so true. We have an excellent role model in that in the public spotlight right now.

    2. Randy Grathen Avatar
      Randy Grathen

      Well said Craig. All those adjectives describe the problem perfectly. Too sad!

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